Talking to Girls
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You're just walking down the street, minding your own business, when all of a sudden,
you see something along the likes of this.
On a totally unrelated note, I've owned 3 cars in my life and my current car is named Natalie Portman. Don't judge me.
Alright, cool. Let's talk to her.
Alright. Let's do it.
I'm gonna start walking towards her now.
Yep. I'm gonna approach.
Why can't I do it? What's wrong with me?
Don't worry. That shit's natural. Normal people are scared shitless when they have to talk to a woman, especially if she's hot and he's sober.
But why?
According to Mystery, one of the most influential Pick-Up Artists in history (basically, he teaches guys how to get chicks), it's evolutionary.
For the vast majority of human existence, we lived in tribes where everyone knew everyone else. If you did something retarded, you couldn't just leave and meet new people. Your neighbors saw you as "that retard" forever and ever and ever because you met X people in your life and that was it.
Any humiliation you may have suffered followed you for life.
That fucking sucks.
So when a girl turned you down, everyone knew about it and you looked like a loser and your reproductive prospects turned to pretty much zero.
So at one point in time, your fear made perfect evolutionary sense.
It doesn't anymore. If one girl turns you down, you walk 3 feet and talk to another girl. No problem. She won't even remember you by this time tomorrow (especially if you live in a somewhat urban area).
So there's no downside to approaching. You fear is a vestigial structure that you squelch. If you approach and it works, great. You can fuck her, or date her, or be her friend, or connect emotionally. Whatever you want.
Good. Let's talk to her now. Can you do it?
If so, congratulations. You are automatically on the top 20%. Go talk to some chicks.
If not, keep reading.
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There are several ways to motivate yourself to do something. I'll list out two.
1. Pleasure
Internal voice: "Hey, if you talk to her, she might be fun. What if she shares the same interests as you? Wouldn't that be fun? Or what if she has a completely different set of values, but she can teach you something? Wouldn't you like to learn something today? Oh, dude. What is she's 'The One'? Go talk to her man. Let's make something awesome today."
2. Pain
Internal voice: "Are you fucking kidding me? You find a person that could make your day and you don't even have the balls to approach her? Fine. Go home. Go home, you pathetic piece of shit. Go home and watch porn and shoot into a tissue, you pussy. That's the closest you're getting to sex with a woman. If you can't approach a woman you want, you don't deserve to live. You are, for all intents and purposes, sterile. Enjoy evolutionary oblivion, fucker."
Different people use different methods. It depends on whether you are motivated by gravitating towards rewards (me) or avoiding pain (Roguewolf). They are both useful, so choose your tool and go with it.
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Ok, so I said hi. Now what?
Be interesting and be fun.
"Well, no shit. But what can I say to be interesting and fun?"
I can't write out a conversation for you. The best way to get good is to try things and use what works. Anything I tell you to say would not be congruent with your personality anyway.
Note which topics work for you and which don't. Cut out the fat, and you'll be a modern Casanova in no time.

May you never take the path of least resistance.
-Jia
On a totally unrelated note, I've owned 3 cars in my life and my current car is named Natalie Portman. Don't judge me. Alright, cool. Let's talk to her.
Alright. Let's do it.
I'm gonna start walking towards her now.
Yep. I'm gonna approach.
Why can't I do it? What's wrong with me?
Don't worry. That shit's natural. Normal people are scared shitless when they have to talk to a woman, especially if she's hot and he's sober.
But why?
According to Mystery, one of the most influential Pick-Up Artists in history (basically, he teaches guys how to get chicks), it's evolutionary.
For the vast majority of human existence, we lived in tribes where everyone knew everyone else. If you did something retarded, you couldn't just leave and meet new people. Your neighbors saw you as "that retard" forever and ever and ever because you met X people in your life and that was it.
Any humiliation you may have suffered followed you for life.
That fucking sucks.
So when a girl turned you down, everyone knew about it and you looked like a loser and your reproductive prospects turned to pretty much zero.
So at one point in time, your fear made perfect evolutionary sense.
It doesn't anymore. If one girl turns you down, you walk 3 feet and talk to another girl. No problem. She won't even remember you by this time tomorrow (especially if you live in a somewhat urban area).
So there's no downside to approaching. You fear is a vestigial structure that you squelch. If you approach and it works, great. You can fuck her, or date her, or be her friend, or connect emotionally. Whatever you want.
Good. Let's talk to her now. Can you do it?
If so, congratulations. You are automatically on the top 20%. Go talk to some chicks.
If not, keep reading.
----------------------------SHIT JUST GOT REAL-----------------------------------------
There are several ways to motivate yourself to do something. I'll list out two.
1. Pleasure
Internal voice: "Hey, if you talk to her, she might be fun. What if she shares the same interests as you? Wouldn't that be fun? Or what if she has a completely different set of values, but she can teach you something? Wouldn't you like to learn something today? Oh, dude. What is she's 'The One'? Go talk to her man. Let's make something awesome today."
2. Pain
Internal voice: "Are you fucking kidding me? You find a person that could make your day and you don't even have the balls to approach her? Fine. Go home. Go home, you pathetic piece of shit. Go home and watch porn and shoot into a tissue, you pussy. That's the closest you're getting to sex with a woman. If you can't approach a woman you want, you don't deserve to live. You are, for all intents and purposes, sterile. Enjoy evolutionary oblivion, fucker."
Different people use different methods. It depends on whether you are motivated by gravitating towards rewards (me) or avoiding pain (Roguewolf). They are both useful, so choose your tool and go with it.
---------------------------SHIT RETURNING TO NORMAL---------------------------
Ok, so I said hi. Now what?
Be interesting and be fun.
"Well, no shit. But what can I say to be interesting and fun?"
I can't write out a conversation for you. The best way to get good is to try things and use what works. Anything I tell you to say would not be congruent with your personality anyway.
Note which topics work for you and which don't. Cut out the fat, and you'll be a modern Casanova in no time.

May you never take the path of least resistance.
-Jia


